People will usually check out of relationship on an emotional level long before they do on a physical level, what this basically means is that their heart is no longer in it. It may be your partner or indeed yourself who has checked out and you might find yourself making excuses or turning a blind eye to the obvious signs in the hope that its just a phase. But its important to recognise the signs so that you can communicate these to your partner. There is no point remaining in a relationship that is one-sided. So lets take a look at some signs and what to look out for.
Lack of interest: Firstly, a clear sign your partner has emotionally checked out of the relationship is if they lack interest in you. Did they used to ask you how your day went but now they don’t? Or when you asked your partner how their day went, you used to get a step by step run down of what happened, but now they just say fine.
Lack of passion: Pay attention to how your partner kisses you, has the passion gone or is there any real intimacy between you now? Remember, intimacy goes beyond the physical and is an emotional connection, so if the intimacy is gone then its likely that the emotional connection has as well. You should not feel lonely when your partner is around.
Are you still a priority?: Does your partner prioritise other things over your relationship? Do they take longer to respond to your messages, compared to normal. Or are you the one who always seems to be starting the conversation nowadays? Pay attention to their behaviour, are they more interested in chatting to friends and not full invested in the time you have together.
Lack of communication: Communication is so important in any relationship, so have you tried to talk to your partner about your concerns but they fob you off. Or do they try to change the subject when you want to talk about the relationship or your future together.
Your partners attitude: Have you noticed a change in your partners mood, are they always in a bad mood or do they start arguments with you out of nothing and then blame you? This one can involve all of the points above, as they all build the bigger picture of your partners overall attitude.
Now like I said at the start it is important to recognise these signs so you can speak to your partner about them. It may be that either one of you have become complacent and are taking each other for granted, if this is the case and you both put the effort in then there is no reason the relationship cannot be rekindled. Communication really is key in this case to enable you both to identify what needs done and work towards it, together.
However, if you resonate with any of the signs above and your partner is unwilling to discuss or fix these issues then you need to let go because you deserve so much better.
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