Signs Your Parent Is A Narcissist.

So, in my last article ‘Are You Dating A Narcissist?’ I explained exactly what a narcissist is but just to quickly recap, it is someone who doesn’t accept responsibility for their actions, in fact they rarely even accept that they are in the wrong, they are huffy, jealous and manipulative. Anyone can be a narcissist and being raised by one can leave you with attachment issues, anxiety, and you may find yourself either shutting people out or constantly chasing love. This article will briefly go over some traits and help you identify the signs of a narcissistic parent, which may help you understand why you feel the way you do.

Blame Game; Did you grow up feeling like everything that went wrong within your family was your fault and accepting responsibility, even when it usually wasn’t your fault? If you have siblings, they were always seen as the golden child and you never got the same respect or even the same tone when you were spoken to.

Indirectly brings you down; Your parent won’t directly put you down, as that is too obvious and to the outside world they want to appear as charming and likeable. But has your parent openly talked about something you have done but ignored your achievement and said someone else has done it and talked about how well they done. Or had a joke at your expense with their friends and say you are oversensitive if you question them about it. They have the ability to bring you down and make you feel useless.

Manipulates you; Narcissists are experts in manipulation, they will stop at nothing to get their own way, but twist it round on you. For example, does your parent repeatedly say any of the following; ‘do you have any idea the things I’ve done for you?’, ‘you are always so ungrateful’, ‘you always embarrass me’ or ‘you better do well in this …and make me proud’, these are all forms of manipulation.

Narcissist mothers and fathers are often jealous of their children, so if you start being more of an individual, going on your own path and pulling away from the parent they will increase their controlling behaviours to keep you where they want you. For this reason they will also hate any romantic partner you have, as they are viewed as a threat or competition. It is all a game of control and manipulation to them.

As I said in my last article the only way to win with any narcissist is, not to play. I understand that cutting a parent from your life is harder than a partner, however, you only get one life and you really need to do what is best for you. YOU choose the people you have around you. Choose wisely. These articles are to here to help you look at the relationships that surround you, so you can improve them or step away from them, in order to protect yourself.

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